Beliefs,living outside your comfort zone

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Have you ever noticed that you have a certain belief about how everything needs to be done? Like maybe how you should behave on a date, how fast you should go and stuff like that. Or even like how you should respond when something bad happens or someone wrongs you. It’s like that for me; I have certain beliefs wired in my brain that direct how I do everything. The weird part is, the beliefs never seem to match with reality. My actions, based on my beliefs usually produce the opposite reaction to what I expect. If I am overly nice to people, they don’t love and respect me but instead they feel exactly the opposite (resent and disrespect me). If I am readily available to people, they don’t appreciate my presence but instead cannot wait for me to leave. I have a lot of cases like this, where my actions based on my beliefs produce the opposite effect. I was watching a video on YouTube in which one guy said “in life we have ideals and we have reality. Ideals are ways in which things happen, according to popular belief and reality is how things actually happen”. The context he said it was in terms of dating girls and it instantly resonated with me. I will not share exactly in which way of course – for the curious one’s – but it was a particularly important moment for me because it made me look at other areas of my life and I found out the same thing. And I also noticed that these beliefs I have are mainly cemented by fear. The fear to try new things and the fear to push the boundary beyond what I do normally. Simply; the fear to put myself outside of my comfort zone. This has been holding back a lot and I think it’s time to push past my comfort zone. I now seriously think growth is outside your comfort zone.

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I am a disgusted owner of five pairs of 3-D glasses. I say disgusted because I never intended to own more than one pair of 3-D glasses and in fact I would prefer just leasing them every time I go to a cinema to watch a movie in 3-D. 2 months ago we were all doing the ‘leasing thing’ but then cinemas in my town decided to come up with a ridiculous rule – you have to purchase 3-D glasses every time you go to watch a 3D movie – which has resulted me in owning that unnecessary number of 3-D glasses stated earlier.

I bought my first pair of 3-D glasses when I went to watch Iron Man 3. No issues then of course, the money I spent on the ticket and the glasses was well worth it to me. I went home not only impressed by the movie but feeling happy about my newly acquired glasses, planning to use them on my subsequent visits to cinemas. Only a week later I was at a cinema to watch ‘The Great Gatsby’. While lining up to purchase a ticket, I checked myself to see if I had brought my glasses with me, hmm… it turned out that I hadn’t. I was a little pissed off at my forgetfulness because now I would have to buy another pair just for that day. I ended up doing so but it did not occur to me that while my need to buy new glasses was due to my forgetfulness; in  truth  I would have been asked to buy new ones even if I had brought my old pair.

I said the ‘ridiculous rule’ was implemented 2 months ago but I did not find out just then, it took me about 3 weeks to catch on. I am not usually good at keeping up with trends, not even obvious ones, usually I find out things when I am forced to (by circumstances). An example of this; I spent 16 hours of my birthday – this year’s birthday – not knowing there was something special about it and only realized so when my sister sent a text wishing me a happy birthday. I don’t blame myself for that one, I am sure my mind ignored that date because I am not exactly enthusiastic about growing older, not now that I am past 20.

Anyway, I finally found out the game the cinemas were playing when I went to watch ‘Star Trek Into Darkness’. On that day my memory had not failed me and so I had Gatsby with me (Gatsby is the name I gave to my second pair of 3-D glasses, my other glasses are Iron, Star, Penguin, Monster and Despicable). Thinking I did not need to buy glasses that day, I purchased my ticket and immediately walked away to get myself some pop corns, wait… I mean I was about to walk away to get myself some pop corns when a lady at the ticket counter called me back. I asked what the matter was; she said I had not bought my glasses yet. I told her I did not need to and showed her the glasses I had in my hands, but she said I had to buy another pair, it did not matter that I had another one already. For a second I thought she was joking but her face looked serious so I asked her a few questions to be clear on what the deal was. She explained that management had introduced a rule requiring customers to buy 3-D glasses for every 3-D movie watched irrespective of whether they already owned 3-D glasses or not. She also added that the reasons for the new rule were not explained to her but she was directed to enforce it strictly. I was very disappointed to learn this because though the glasses are not that expensive, I hate spending money unnecessarily. I ended up buying the glasses and enjoying the movie but I vowed to go to another cinema if that was the rule at that particular cinema. But Penguin, Monster and Despicable are evidence that it is the new rule everywhere and I don’t like it.

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